One Of Us Is Crazy

One Of Us Is Crazy Charles Misja, Ph.D. Ever had the experience of listening to a loved one talk to you and something just didn’t make sense because you walked away feeling like you were crazy?  Or, maybe he/she was crazy?  Well, one of you is crazy but you’re not sure whom?   We can feel off-balance, even a bit psychologically disoriented because we’re just not sure what, or who, to believe.  It’s like someone coming to you and … [Read more...]

Managing Christmas and Holiday Stress

Managing Christmas and Holiday Stress Michael Misja, Ph.D.   A 2006 survey by the American Psychological Association found that 38% of Americans said their stress increased during the holiday season. Lack of time, money, and the pressure to buy presents and attend family gatherings were the main stressors. The good news was that 54% of those surveyed thought stress levels were about the same as always.  The better news was … [Read more...]

What If You Didn’t Matter? Part 1

  What If You Didn’t Matter?  Part 1 By Michael Misja, NCFF   Did you ever have the experience of listening to a talk and having one statement jump out, causing you to not hear another word the speaker said?  That happened to me a few weeks back.   At a men’s breakfast a speaker who had just returned from a mission’s trip was lamenting the fact that so few men were involved in the challenging work of helping … [Read more...]

Do Men Need Counseling?

Do Men Need Counseling? By Michael Misja, Ph.D.   “I can handle it on my own.”   “I know what I need to do, what’s he going to tell me that I don’t already know?” Counseling men is different than counseling women. When I see a man for a first appointment, I know I’m being sized up.  Some guys are wondering who is going to be the Alpha Male in the office, me or him.  Others wonder if they are going to be lectured or … [Read more...]


WILL MY KIDS BE OK IF I GET A DIVORCE? By Michael Misja, Ph.D.   Most people struggling with whether or not to stay in a marriage wonder how a divorce will affect their children.  They ask if their kids will be better or worse off if they decide to divorce. Many come to the conclusion that their sons and daughters will be fine if their parents’ marriage ends. Their reasoning goes like this:   -I don’t want to teach … [Read more...]

Fingertip Ratatouille – Don’t Waste Stupidity 

One of my deepest life convictions is that pain must not be wasted. Pain is the rich, fertile soil for the growth of wisdom.  God wants us to reflect into our pain.  I once led a weekend retreat focusing on how God can help us “mine” our difficult life experiences in order to arrive at personal beliefs about life. Recently I have come to believe that I can also learn not only from my pain, but from my own stupidity. Let me walk you through … [Read more...]